Do Men Love “Bitches”?
November 13, 2009
While visiting an account this past week, I had to laugh at one of the employees.
Sitting in the staff lounge on her break, she was engrossed in a copy of “Why Men Love Bitches.”
I chuckled as I asked, “Seriously?”
Seriously.
Always one to love researching, I checked out Amazon when I got home. I wasn’t necessarily looking for information on the book itself– I was looking for reviews.
(Bitch, by the way, stands for: Babe In Total Control of Herself.)
Women love this book, but surprisingly, so do a lot of men.
Well, maybe not love. But there are a lot of reviews posted by men who say the advise is right on…
And how did the author get this information, anyway?!
Evidently she interviewed many men, and there was a common theme among the majority of them.
The idea basically (for those of you who haven’t read the book) is that most men today want women who are independent, self-sufficient, not overly needy– and won’t put up with any bull. And won’t always let him have the upper hand.
One common complaint that was sited frequently had to do with women who want commitment– and any guy will do.
So… I can’t help but wonder how all this equates in the spanking world. I know for a lot of men, spanking is purely sexual. As it is for many women.
But there are a whole lot of you out there with dominate personalities, looking for a submissive woman.
How does this jive? Can a woman be all of the above mentioned things, and truly submissive at the same time?
I’m intrigued, guys… I’d really love feedback on this one.
I personally have always been independent. The concept of true submission has always played a tug-of-war within me.
Male opinions would be most welcome here!
November 17, 2009 at 12:05 pm
I don’t think there’s any doubt that a strong woman can be a sub. There are at least two women lawyers who blog about being submissive.
And you ask for a male point of view, I think it’s more challenging to dom a strong woman. I wrote a series on my website called The Training of Lisa about this female exeuctive being domed.
By the way, you’d never know it from reading the blogs but Selkie has written there are more male submissives than female submissives.
FD
November 17, 2009 at 10:12 pm
Thanks, FD, for the feedback!
November 18, 2009 at 4:19 am
Funny you should mention that book, I almost purchased it once upon a time. I mean think about it, don’t you know some pretty intense women who are constantly being pursued while the submissive, accommodating ones are all to often being used as doormats? But I wonder is it submission that is the problem or is it a willingness to accept mistreatment? And are the b – i – t – c – h – e – s really just women who are clear about their expectations and unwilling to accept mistreatment?
My impression of many submissive women is not that they are weak or victimized but that they are strong, stronger than most by being willing to commit to an ideal.
November 18, 2009 at 4:26 am
I totally agree with you. I read through the book, and its not about being a “bitch” in the sense of… well, being bitchy. Its about not being a doormat, and setting standards for yourself.
And yes– it totally takes strength to be submissive.
Thanks for commenting!