Nuances…
August 18, 2009
My friend and I (who has also been single for some time) were talking recently.
Her high school sweetheart has reappeared in her life, and I’ve been encouraging her to give him another look.
Our discussion turned to what it takes to make a relationship work, day to day, and what we miss about a man that makes all the effort worthwhile.
I couldn’t tell her the thing I miss most, for it is a deeply held secret. But I did share a few things, some quite trivial, but still fun.
Sitting on a guy’s lap… Holding hands… Sleeping snuggled close when the weather is cold… Fingers threaded gently through my hair… Eyes closing in preparation for a kiss…
In a relationship that involves spanking, its the little nuances that make the difference. Certain things tend to function as trigger points for most of us. We’re all different, of course, but women do seem to share some commonalities.
Most straight women into spanking are into it for specific reasons. The idea of a strong, decisive man is a large part of it. Somehow romance just seems so much hotter with an alpha guy.
But spanking is only one part. Small things can build heat between two people.
Fingers fisted into hair can be good– as long as its done correctly. There has to be a firm grip at the scalp, so it doesn’t hurt, just conveys a sense of command. Kisses on the eyelids are always good, especially if tears are involved.
And lets talk about tears… 
Its okay to just let a woman cry, and not try to fix her problem. A strong shoulder and comforting arms are often all that is required– no words necessary.
A finger under the chin, tipping the face up is hot…
Fingers in the elastic waistband of panties, preparing to pull them down– very hot!
I once saw a scene in a video where the woman was kneeling and the man had one hand cupping a reddened cheek and the other was stretched out, smoothing her hair.
Now that is beyond hot!
(I borrowed this picture from Brambleberry Blush– thanks Carly!)
