Her Secret Corner… Spanking Erotica

For J…

Late night chat can often bring up intriguing topics.  Fatigue often loosens tongues, and minds tend to wander.  We tend to explore more deeply than we might otherwise.  Secrets we normally would never share have a way of slipping out.

During one such recent chat the subjects of exclusivity, connection and cheating came up. 

Many people with spanking fetishes are with vanilla partners.  I know from personal experience how frustrating that can be.  But lets say you have a couple that is like-minded.  The husband likes to spank, and the wife likes being spanked.  Is it cheating if the husband spanks another woman?

In my personal life I am rather conservative.  I know what my answer is.  But I’d be interested in hearing from others.  Where do men line up on this?  I can guess where most women will stand, but I have a feeling not all will agree with me.

I have never done the party circuit, and I never will.  That sort of thing is not for me, but I know for others, it is the norm.  So, wives who happily attend such events: Can you watch your husband spank another woman and not feel jealousy?  Can he watch another man spank you, and not feel jealous?

The other side of the coin is exclusivity.  Do most women want an exclusive spanker, even if that spanker is not a lover?  Is exclusivity necessary for a connection to exist?  Is it necessary for emotional happiness?

For myself, I am a very private person.  On the shy side.  Outgoing in my day to day life, but find even talking about the subject of spanking– face to face– rather mortifying!  I know most women in LA don’t blush these days, but there are always exceptions to every rule!

The idea of allowing more than one man to be that close to me is beyond foreign.  So for myself, the concept of connection and exclusivity is a given. 

I tend to compare promiscuous spanking with promiscuous sex.  Sex can be fulfilling, bonding and bring two people closer together.  Or it can be the equivalent of a fun sport– great exercise, feels good, raises endorphins.  But once you’re done you’re looking for the shower and a cool drink.   Wonderful for the physical, not so much for the emotional.

Speaking of promiscuous spanking– is there such a thing?  Even if no sex is involved?

I think of spanking in very intimate terms.  When I read works by other authors, if there are group scenes, I usually won’t finish the story.  Likewise with parent/child scenarios, even if the “child” is an adult.  I tend to think of adult consensual spanking as something with the potential to be even more intimate than sex.

 Where do the rest of you stand?  Is spanking someone else cheating?  Do most women need exclusivity to be happy in a spanking relationship?  And is there such a thing as a promiscuous spanker?