People of kink
January 10, 2009
Last week I placed a post on a local forum, once more looking to find someone to share my desires with. Scary, same as it was last time, but also very eye-opening.
I had no idea how many of us there are out there! Seriously, a lot…
I also had no idea how many people practice the more extreme side of our shared kink. I’ve had several replies from men who are into d/s; some that have practiced dd, and a few that are on the same page as me– just looking for simple spanking activity.
Can I be honest here, without fear of offending anyone? No judgement, but– I don’t get the d/s concept. Truthfully, I have no desire to hand over control of my life to another person, I’m just craving some help and closeness. One guy who contacted me likes to play head games, telling the woman she can’t use the bathroom until he says so, and that sort of thing.
Uhh– no way!
Sorry, that’s just not me.
I received a reply to one of my blog posts this morning from a gentleman who described his relationship with his wife, and how they use spanking to zest up their love life. They play at realistic scenarios, but outside the bedroom they share a real partnership. That sounds perfect to me!
Well, I have been corresponding with a few men who seem nice, sane and (relatively) normal. The idea that there are possibilities gives me hope!
January 12, 2009 at 7:00 am
Hi Cydni,
I just found your space on the web, and I’ve been browsing all your past posts, enjoying each one and feeling so glad that I found Her Secret Corner here.
I was never particularly interested in spanking between lovers as loveplay or as a form of discipline – I just never really thought about it. But I was reading some stories by Patty from Creative Spanko Wench blog, and I could see the appeal. Spanking became very attractive to me, and I started to crave the intimacy of it. I also tried to seek out likeminded men, but I swear, finding the Holy Grail might be easier
Anyway, I just wanted to drop a note to say thank you for creating this space; it really resonated with me and I’ll definitely be following it from now on! I wish you the best of luck in finding the right partnership!
- Elle
January 13, 2009 at 4:11 am
Hi Elle,
I’m glad you’re enjoying my little corner! I’m always flattered that people enjoy my writings, and love to hear from everyone.
Thanks for taking the time to leave me a reply, and good luck to you in your search as well.
Cydni
January 17, 2009 at 4:26 am
I totally agree with you. I have been into erotic spanking, light bondage, and a few other activities on the light side of BDSM for years. I keep finding men who want to pee on me, whip me (with a real whip), drip candle wax, etc.
Uh, no, just spank me and make passionate love. Ok? Doesn’t that sound like more fun???? I, too, have a few new prospects for the new year, but I’m getting discouraged.
pammie
January 17, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Hi Pammie,
welcome! I know how frustrated you are; I have received so many e-mails from men into things that make my skin crawl! I had no idea what actually goes on out there…
Be careful, and good luck with your search. He’s out there somewhere!
June 4, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Hello, this is an old post I know, but seemed an appropriate place to post, I’m recently into the DD scene and spanked the girl who got me into it a few day’s ago for the first time, as wel as it being her first time. she’d alway’s been turned on by it for a while, and had not found somone to tan her bottom properly till we started getting close. unfortunately we didn’t have time to have a proper session, but I did send her off with a sore bottom to remember me by, especially as she was about to drive North for 5 hours in a car with sports suspension.
I think she really enjoyed it, especially when I restrained her arm behind her back. and it turned me on when she kept telling me she wasn’t sorry for the things she’d done, knowing that it would result in a sharp painful sting to her rear.
Looking forward to reading more post’s, they and to my knowledge base, are an incredible turn on, and help to give me more idea’s.
Ash
xx